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"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change". -Wayne Dyer
What are you settling for in life?
What are you getting out of that?
Often people hold the view that what’s going on in their life, or in other words their circumstances, dictate how life goes for them. I’d like to pose another way to look at it. Your perspective about your situation actually creates your experience of life.
Everyone has a different perspective, each one valid and valuable. Consider how life would be different if you truly allowed new perspectives to inform your experience of life, giving you the gift of seeing something new for yourself.
You may not be able to immediately change your circumstances, yet you CAN change how you relate to them, and in turn they tend to change. Every “problem”, every breakdown, has a huge opportunity for growth nestled within it.
I challenge you to look at things in your life from a different perspective this week. Put yourself in other people’s shoes and consider how they might view the same situation. What new possibilities do you see?
Showing posts with label Life Coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life Coaching. Show all posts
Friday, July 10, 2009
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Presence
Truly being in the moment can be difficult for most. It requires us to let go of the story we hold on to about the past as well as our obsession with predicting or planning the future, to just
BE where we are now.
However, I’d pose to you that being in the moment is actually the most empowering place to live. Most of the time, when you’re in a bad mood or some difficult circumstances have arisen, it’s not the moment itself that weighs on you, rather it’s the thoughts about what happened to create the bad mood, or what the circumstances mean to your future and how it’s going to be, that have you concerned.
The present moment allows for flexibility and gives you the opportunity to empower a change or shift.
Consider that the past and future don’t exist – they are only in your mind and there is only now. So how will you be right now?
BE where we are now.
However, I’d pose to you that being in the moment is actually the most empowering place to live. Most of the time, when you’re in a bad mood or some difficult circumstances have arisen, it’s not the moment itself that weighs on you, rather it’s the thoughts about what happened to create the bad mood, or what the circumstances mean to your future and how it’s going to be, that have you concerned.
The present moment allows for flexibility and gives you the opportunity to empower a change or shift.
Consider that the past and future don’t exist – they are only in your mind and there is only now. So how will you be right now?
Friday, June 5, 2009
Interdependence
Many people live by the mantra of wanting to be independent. According to Stephen Covey, the most powerful way to develop is to move from dependence, to independence, and finally to INTERdependence. You are not alone in this world of millions so why keep insisting that you have to do everything entirely by yourself?
People who are dependent rely on others to give them what they want. They put the focus outside of themselves to what others are doing or not doing. This way of operating in the world robs you of your ability to declare how life will go for you and actually take action on fulfilling into that declaration.
Independence on the other hand requires you to get really responsible for how your life goes and proactive in your actions, prioritizing and operating from your future vision of life. If you find yourself constantly playing the blame game, consider, what are you really getting out of that? Is the payoff worth the consequences?
Next, create interdependence by working with the people in your life in a way that instills trust and partnership. Really listen to what they have to say, contribute your own input, and work together to find new solutions that meet both your values.
Who made up the notion that self-reliance was better than strengthening connections to others by enlisting support? In a world of 6 billion people, who gave you the idea that you were meant to do it alone?
People who are dependent rely on others to give them what they want. They put the focus outside of themselves to what others are doing or not doing. This way of operating in the world robs you of your ability to declare how life will go for you and actually take action on fulfilling into that declaration.
Independence on the other hand requires you to get really responsible for how your life goes and proactive in your actions, prioritizing and operating from your future vision of life. If you find yourself constantly playing the blame game, consider, what are you really getting out of that? Is the payoff worth the consequences?
Next, create interdependence by working with the people in your life in a way that instills trust and partnership. Really listen to what they have to say, contribute your own input, and work together to find new solutions that meet both your values.
Who made up the notion that self-reliance was better than strengthening connections to others by enlisting support? In a world of 6 billion people, who gave you the idea that you were meant to do it alone?
Friday, April 24, 2009
Love
Love is such an amazing phenomenon. You see it all the time, in a mother cheering on her child at an event, a couple enjoying one another’s company over a romantic dinner, or even just a kind gesture from a stranger like giving food to someone who’s hungry or showing concern when someone gets hurt.
Considering how warm and expansive it feels when you give love unconditionally, it’s almost unbelievable how stingy we are with it. Often you become so consumed by the fear of not having enough for yourself that you refrain from giving it to anyone, INCLUDING yourself and/or blaming one another for the faults in your relationship, always looking for the leverage to ‘be right’.
So OF COURSE you feel like you don’t have enough of it – you aren’t operating from love or giving it away. How can you possibly feel that you have something you constantly deny the universe?
True generosity, to others as well as to yourself, lies in giving love away as if you had a never-ending supply of it, because you do. Love is beyond abundant, it’s eternal.
Life can be transformed through things like compassion, understanding and kindness. So when you're feeling like you don't have enough love in your life, GIVE it to others and notice the wealth of it that runs through you. Touch your own heart by touching someone elses.
Considering how warm and expansive it feels when you give love unconditionally, it’s almost unbelievable how stingy we are with it. Often you become so consumed by the fear of not having enough for yourself that you refrain from giving it to anyone, INCLUDING yourself and/or blaming one another for the faults in your relationship, always looking for the leverage to ‘be right’.
So OF COURSE you feel like you don’t have enough of it – you aren’t operating from love or giving it away. How can you possibly feel that you have something you constantly deny the universe?
True generosity, to others as well as to yourself, lies in giving love away as if you had a never-ending supply of it, because you do. Love is beyond abundant, it’s eternal.
Life can be transformed through things like compassion, understanding and kindness. So when you're feeling like you don't have enough love in your life, GIVE it to others and notice the wealth of it that runs through you. Touch your own heart by touching someone elses.
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Never Too Late
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do.” ~Mark Twain
That’s one of my favorite quotes. It’s what I believe they really mean when they say ‘carpe diem’; seize the day. Every day, in every moment, you have the chance to do that thing you’ve always wanted to do, to create that life you’ve always wanted to live. It doesn’t matter what point you’re at in life or what you’ve endured along the way. You are a naturally creative and resourceful being with the power to alter your own personal universe just because you say so.
Age, gender, race, sexuality, religion – none of these are truly deciding factors as to whether or not you can do or achieve something, they are only used as excuses and protestations for why something isn’t possible for you. (Look at Barack Obama – how many people thought we would ever have a black president?) In reality, you can do absolutely anything. Even if it were just something you were curious about – like what it would be like to live in another country? Or if that person you loved so long ago is still available or still thinks about you? Or if after all the time you’ve spent in your field, if you could really change careers NOW and actually do what you’re passionate about?
Part of the wonder of life is that we GET to be curious and subsequently explore and discover! True, it may not turn out the way you hope it to when you play it out in your mind – but it least it will turn out. Regrets are completely arbitrary when you can truly say that you do and have lived life fully.
So plan that trip, re-unite with that person, start interviewing, take whatever chance it is that you’re avoiding – do whatever it is that you think you can’t. In telling you what you can and can’t do, no one’s voice will ever be as strong as your own.
That’s one of my favorite quotes. It’s what I believe they really mean when they say ‘carpe diem’; seize the day. Every day, in every moment, you have the chance to do that thing you’ve always wanted to do, to create that life you’ve always wanted to live. It doesn’t matter what point you’re at in life or what you’ve endured along the way. You are a naturally creative and resourceful being with the power to alter your own personal universe just because you say so.
Age, gender, race, sexuality, religion – none of these are truly deciding factors as to whether or not you can do or achieve something, they are only used as excuses and protestations for why something isn’t possible for you. (Look at Barack Obama – how many people thought we would ever have a black president?) In reality, you can do absolutely anything. Even if it were just something you were curious about – like what it would be like to live in another country? Or if that person you loved so long ago is still available or still thinks about you? Or if after all the time you’ve spent in your field, if you could really change careers NOW and actually do what you’re passionate about?
Part of the wonder of life is that we GET to be curious and subsequently explore and discover! True, it may not turn out the way you hope it to when you play it out in your mind – but it least it will turn out. Regrets are completely arbitrary when you can truly say that you do and have lived life fully.
So plan that trip, re-unite with that person, start interviewing, take whatever chance it is that you’re avoiding – do whatever it is that you think you can’t. In telling you what you can and can’t do, no one’s voice will ever be as strong as your own.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Change
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world" -- Mohandas Gandhi
The universe is vast and your opportunities in it are unlimited.
So often I hear people talk about the change they want to see so fervently yet refuse to be the catalyst that embodies it.
If not you, who? If not now, when?
Change, as President Obama has so eloquently put, “will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
This boldly speaks not just to our country or our world today, but also to your own unique life. The more you keep waiting for things to get better, to have more time, more money, more love – the more you are going to spend your life waiting. If you really get responsible for how your life is going right now, you actually regain the opportunity to have it go differently. You reclaim the power to create all those things you’re seeking.
Practice being “the one” everywhere, all the time.
The universe is vast and your opportunities in it are unlimited.
So often I hear people talk about the change they want to see so fervently yet refuse to be the catalyst that embodies it.
If not you, who? If not now, when?
Change, as President Obama has so eloquently put, “will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
This boldly speaks not just to our country or our world today, but also to your own unique life. The more you keep waiting for things to get better, to have more time, more money, more love – the more you are going to spend your life waiting. If you really get responsible for how your life is going right now, you actually regain the opportunity to have it go differently. You reclaim the power to create all those things you’re seeking.
Practice being “the one” everywhere, all the time.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Blame
Anything someone, something, or some society or culture says or does "to" you, has nothing to do with you. It is their stuff, not yours. Even if someone says something cruel to you, again, it truly has nothing to do with you. It just speaks to the particular way they view the world. It is marred by the interpretations they have made about how life goes for them. It does not define your worth or value. So quit taking it so personally!
If you're blaming anyone for anything, you're giving up your power to be responsible for your life. You're giving up your rightful place as the creator of your life experience to be a player in someone else’s game and play victim to their rule.
Reclaim your life and your power. You are by nature a strong, courageous being with the capacity to empower nations and instigate world change. Start living your life as the miraculous leader you truly are.
Nightly, reflect on each time you reacted negatively in the day. For each instance, think of something empowering you could have done instead. Then the following day, practice implementing your new created responses.
If you're blaming anyone for anything, you're giving up your power to be responsible for your life. You're giving up your rightful place as the creator of your life experience to be a player in someone else’s game and play victim to their rule.
Reclaim your life and your power. You are by nature a strong, courageous being with the capacity to empower nations and instigate world change. Start living your life as the miraculous leader you truly are.
Nightly, reflect on each time you reacted negatively in the day. For each instance, think of something empowering you could have done instead. Then the following day, practice implementing your new created responses.
Monday, February 9, 2009
Your Dream Life
Do you ever daydream about what your life would look like if it were perfect?
For that brief moment, you have this glorious glimpse into another world, one where anything is possible; where dreams and reality are one in the same and life is an experience of love, joy and satisfaction.
Then something happens to bring you back to the present moment and it’s as if all of the sudden someone slammed the door shut on that vision and sent you running back under the covers of your bed where it was safe and comfortable.
Let me tell you something, life is not happening under the covers! What feels safe, comfortable and familiar will not get you the life of your dreams!
So rather than relinquishing all control and declaring your life to be bound by your circumstances, consider for a moment - what are you really afraid of that’s preventing you from having this life?
Make a list of all areas where you’re holding back, avoiding, or stopping in life. For each area, ask yourself, am I coming from love or am I coming from fear? If fear, distinguish exactly what the fear is about. What are you sacrificing to maintain that? What actions can you create from a place of love that have you live your dream life now? Take those actions on regularly.
The future is just a thought - life happens now. Start living it by design.
For that brief moment, you have this glorious glimpse into another world, one where anything is possible; where dreams and reality are one in the same and life is an experience of love, joy and satisfaction.
Then something happens to bring you back to the present moment and it’s as if all of the sudden someone slammed the door shut on that vision and sent you running back under the covers of your bed where it was safe and comfortable.
Let me tell you something, life is not happening under the covers! What feels safe, comfortable and familiar will not get you the life of your dreams!
So rather than relinquishing all control and declaring your life to be bound by your circumstances, consider for a moment - what are you really afraid of that’s preventing you from having this life?
Make a list of all areas where you’re holding back, avoiding, or stopping in life. For each area, ask yourself, am I coming from love or am I coming from fear? If fear, distinguish exactly what the fear is about. What are you sacrificing to maintain that? What actions can you create from a place of love that have you live your dream life now? Take those actions on regularly.
The future is just a thought - life happens now. Start living it by design.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Choice
Only you can manifest the things you want in life because it is action that creates results. You are the only one who can take that action. Yet that’s not enough. Underneath all that action, the doing, is the foundation of who you are being. This is where magical things can happen. Shifting the way you approach people, situations, the world, is the real key to fulfillment. Getting clear on where you’re coming from, the lens through which you see the world, and how you get in your own way gives you access to choosing something else. In distinguishing this paradigm, you receive the gift of opportunity to create choices and actions from an empowered place in line with the vision you hold for your life.
Believe it or not you really do have a choice – you can either continue operating from the disempowering pattern that’s not getting you what you want, or you can choose something new, something outside your comfort zone that resides in the realm of possibility, something that liberates you from limitation and moves you forward. You have the incredible ability to create your life rather than react to it.
What’s possible for you is simply what you say is possible. So what will you create and who will you BE in creating it?
You can make a choice that empowers you, make a choice that disempowers you, or make no choice, which is always a choice, and an automatically disempowering one at that.
What will you choose this week?
Friday, October 31, 2008
The Right Way
People are always trying to do things the right way. We want to fit that mold of perfection that gets the answer right, discovers the secret, finds the one skeleton key that fits every lock.
Life isn't so cut and dry.
Consider that there is no right way. Or conversely, that every way is the right way.
A way that works is A way that works, not the ONLY way that works. There are no limits to how many options exist. Possibility is endless. By trial and error, we learn what does work for us and what doesn't. We learn what we like to do and what we don't. It's unreasonable to expect our path to be identical to another's. You are a unique and extraordinary individual. Discover your own path. Find your own way. Make your own choices.
When something doesn't work, try something else. Failure doesn't exist. It's just a concept. With every choice we make or path we take we learn; and that new knowledge is vital to helping us create our own personal successes. There is no failure in learning. Whether the choice works for us or shows us what doesn't work, we get a little closer to discovering the success that will exist for us as we move forward on our path towards achieving what we desire.
You can do it any way you want to. So stop obsessing over how to do it and just do it!
Life isn't so cut and dry.
Consider that there is no right way. Or conversely, that every way is the right way.
A way that works is A way that works, not the ONLY way that works. There are no limits to how many options exist. Possibility is endless. By trial and error, we learn what does work for us and what doesn't. We learn what we like to do and what we don't. It's unreasonable to expect our path to be identical to another's. You are a unique and extraordinary individual. Discover your own path. Find your own way. Make your own choices.
When something doesn't work, try something else. Failure doesn't exist. It's just a concept. With every choice we make or path we take we learn; and that new knowledge is vital to helping us create our own personal successes. There is no failure in learning. Whether the choice works for us or shows us what doesn't work, we get a little closer to discovering the success that will exist for us as we move forward on our path towards achieving what we desire.
You can do it any way you want to. So stop obsessing over how to do it and just do it!
Friday, October 24, 2008
The Dream
Consider this question, what’s the dream?
In your heart of hearts, what is it you really truly want in life?
The things that you will be most passionate about and motivated to achieve are going to be those that you truly desire and dream about. Inspiration only comes from things that inspire us. So make a choice. Decide to continue following the same patterns as you always have and settle for what exists, what’s easy, known and predictable OR take a stand for your life. Choose to be inspired, to create your dreams and accomplish your goals. Choose to live the life you want NOW. Why remain bound to the circumstances that happen to exist instead of creating the ones you desire? Only you have the power to declare what your future will look like and to fulfill into that declaration. No one can or will do it for you. It’s time to take responsibility for your life and the choices you make in it. Life is full of possibilities, open your heart to them and choose.
In your heart of hearts, what is it you really truly want in life?
The things that you will be most passionate about and motivated to achieve are going to be those that you truly desire and dream about. Inspiration only comes from things that inspire us. So make a choice. Decide to continue following the same patterns as you always have and settle for what exists, what’s easy, known and predictable OR take a stand for your life. Choose to be inspired, to create your dreams and accomplish your goals. Choose to live the life you want NOW. Why remain bound to the circumstances that happen to exist instead of creating the ones you desire? Only you have the power to declare what your future will look like and to fulfill into that declaration. No one can or will do it for you. It’s time to take responsibility for your life and the choices you make in it. Life is full of possibilities, open your heart to them and choose.
Friday, October 17, 2008
Welcome!
Welcome to the JNB Coaching blog!
I'm Jaclyn Beckerman, owner of JNB Coaching. I'm a professional life coach and I truly love what I do. I'm passionate about working with my clients to create the things they want in their life. To live a fulfilled life that realizes their dreams and makes them happy. I work with them to fill the gap between where they are now and where they want to be. I want my clients to win and I fully support them in every way to be in action and accomplish their goals.
Through coaching, I work with my clients to dig deeper and really intuit about how they're being, how they're approaching life, people, and situations. We work to find out what's blocking them or getting in the way of fulfilling their dreams and to recognize the patterns they've lived by or meaning they've created or attached to things that limit their perspective. Once we bring these insights out into the open, we can examine them and see if they're serving you, and if not, explore different approaches and options that might serve you better. We broaden your perspective to look outside the limiting beliefs you've held as a casualty of living life within your comfort zone, or within what you already know. As your coach I encourage you to break outside that box, take off the glasses and see beyond the lens, to recognize a world that is full of opportunities, possibilities, and wide open doors just waiting to be walked through.
So take the next step in creating your future. Check out my website at www.jnbcoaching.com and contact me at jaclyn@jnbcoaching.com or 646-719-1896 to set up a complimentary coaching session to experience the power of coaching. I look forward to working with you to create your dream life!
I'm Jaclyn Beckerman, owner of JNB Coaching. I'm a professional life coach and I truly love what I do. I'm passionate about working with my clients to create the things they want in their life. To live a fulfilled life that realizes their dreams and makes them happy. I work with them to fill the gap between where they are now and where they want to be. I want my clients to win and I fully support them in every way to be in action and accomplish their goals.
Through coaching, I work with my clients to dig deeper and really intuit about how they're being, how they're approaching life, people, and situations. We work to find out what's blocking them or getting in the way of fulfilling their dreams and to recognize the patterns they've lived by or meaning they've created or attached to things that limit their perspective. Once we bring these insights out into the open, we can examine them and see if they're serving you, and if not, explore different approaches and options that might serve you better. We broaden your perspective to look outside the limiting beliefs you've held as a casualty of living life within your comfort zone, or within what you already know. As your coach I encourage you to break outside that box, take off the glasses and see beyond the lens, to recognize a world that is full of opportunities, possibilities, and wide open doors just waiting to be walked through.
So take the next step in creating your future. Check out my website at www.jnbcoaching.com and contact me at jaclyn@jnbcoaching.com or 646-719-1896 to set up a complimentary coaching session to experience the power of coaching. I look forward to working with you to create your dream life!
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