Friday, June 5, 2009

Interdependence

Many people live by the mantra of wanting to be independent. According to Stephen Covey, the most powerful way to develop is to move from dependence, to independence, and finally to INTERdependence. You are not alone in this world of millions so why keep insisting that you have to do everything entirely by yourself?

People who are dependent rely on others to give them what they want. They put the focus outside of themselves to what others are doing or not doing. This way of operating in the world robs you of your ability to declare how life will go for you and actually take action on fulfilling into that declaration.

Independence on the other hand requires you to get really responsible for how your life goes and proactive in your actions, prioritizing and operating from your future vision of life. If you find yourself constantly playing the blame game, consider, what are you really getting out of that? Is the payoff worth the consequences?

Next, create interdependence by working with the people in your life in a way that instills trust and partnership. Really listen to what they have to say, contribute your own input, and work together to find new solutions that meet both your values.

Who made up the notion that self-reliance was better than strengthening connections to others by enlisting support? In a world of 6 billion people, who gave you the idea that you were meant to do it alone?

2 comments:

Rocco Cirillo said...

Jaclyn,
love this post. This notion was exactly the motivation behind my own business. As you say, trust and true partnership (giving and taking without prejudice) are key.

If you have not read a book called "The Wisdom of Crowds" bu James Surowiecki, I thoroughly recommend it.

Anonymous said...

Your post is very vague. You have no concrete definitions. Everyone in this world is selfish thus everyone who can be independent is! In a partnership its your responsibility to make sure you are headed in the right direction. You exhibit your independence by breaking off a partnership when things are going in the wrong direction. The point is if you want something done you have to do it yourself. If you want to cum you have to jerk your own cock!